Last Updated on December 10, 2019 by Valarie Ward

North Carolina is becoming hip to the underage drinking problem and responded by starting a pilot program to help parents and teens like you address the problem. However, the best defense to feeling pressured about drinking is talking to your parents.

Even though you come from two completely different generations, it doesn’t mean that they didn’t have the same feelings and peer pressures as you. Your parents are the greatest resource you have so take a minute to review some important talking points you can use to start the conversation about drinking alcohol with your parents:

1. Who to Talk To: Sometimes it’s easier to talk to one parent over the other, and that’s okay. You won’t offend anyone by talking to mom over dad or vice versa. The important thing is to start a dialogue.
2. Be Open: Think about why you are talking to your parent (or parents) in the first place. What made you decide that you needed to talk to them about alcohol? Curiosity? Peer pressure? Admitting that you had a drink when you weren’t supposed to?

Your parents will start to respect your opinion and trust you more if you are open about your experience with alcohol. They may be disappointed if you tried it illegally, but by being upfront with them it tells them that you are responsible enough to come clean.

3. Listen: Listening is part of effective communication. Listen to what your parents have to say about alcohol, even if you don’t like it.

They may tell you that the legal drinking age in the United States is 21, or they may give you advice about helping a friend you think has a drinking problem. Do not assume that everything they say is to annoy you or tell you what to do.

Remember, their experiences in life have taught them valuable lessons. Let them share their wisdom so that you too can be wise.

4. Ask Questions: If you don’t understand the effects that alcohol has on you or understand what the big deal is about underage drinking, it’s okay to ask your parents. You may not like their answer, but at least you will gain a better understanding and answers to your questions.
5. Be Honest: Just as you will ask questions, your parents will surely ask you some too. Answer them and be honest. They may ask if you have drank before or if one of your friends drink. You are their child, and their first responsibility is to ensure you are safe and healthy, so help them out by being brave enough to be honest.

Remember, your parents are not evil monsters or zombies from another planet. They are your protectors and best friends, and they were once your age. They may dance quirky and wear goofy clothes, but when it comes down to it they are the coolest people on the planet. They are your greatest allies, and they can help you avoid the mistake of illegal drinking.